When The Going Gets Tough...

There are time where things seems blissful and full of hope. The moments to savor every single minute and to make it last as long as possible. Moments that will make us smile, even when we're all alone. Just by thinking of those times will surely makes one feel happy.

But what if when there are times where you needed that someone and he/she couldn't be there for you? What then, when the times where you wanted to be with them so much yet they won't be there?

Frustration, unexplained dissatisfaction, unsaid anger welled up inside. Before long, the next thing you know is that you began to be hateful, bitter and hurt everyone that comes in your way. You began to think that you are not worthy for that someone. Some might even have this crazy idea of thinking to let them go without any explanation. These insecurities builds an invisible wall not to allow anyone to penetrate through.

When arguments are dealt without any endings, thus making the wound gets worse than ever, when is the perfect time to heal it? When is the time to talk about it? A day from now? A week? A month? A year?

Question is, is talk only will be enough? If both were separated from the sea, to different places that so impossible to reach within an arm, is there anything that can replace a simple gesture of hug and kisses to ensure that things will be okay?

There are reasons why some people act like that. If you encounter these kind of insecure people around you, there might be a reason why he/she acts in such way. Different people handled their past in different ways. Some might move on, the others might need the help and support...and we are not talking about a month or two of being together is enough to get by. Some takes a certain period of time to rebuild that trust, to rebuild that self confidence, to demolish that wall of insecurities among them. Some might take a lifetime. Are you up for it? Are you ready to face it?

No matter how similar that person is to ourselves, there might be some certain points that differentiate him/her from you. That differences, no matter how small will determine if you can really cope or dealt with it. If you can't, it is best to let go before things gotten worst. Before hearts broken so badly that there is no turning back.

Lastly, how do we show love? Words came easily. It's the action that speaks the most and the hardest to do. If you do care of the people around you, show it. Prove it. Show the commitment and determination that you want to make it work. By just sitting there and waiting for a miracle to happen, or to wait for things to cool down...it will not work out anything. Sowing fire with fire will only makes things getting worse. It takes patience, hard work and lots of trust, love and care to make a relationship work.

Among of all the things that might make one confused towards each other and caused more misunderstandings, perhaps you might overlook the silent messages that hides behind those unexplained actions: "Help me. I don't want to be this way."

No one can promise that they will never hurt you, because at one time or another they will; the real promise is the time you spent together will be worth the pain in the end.