Owh Men!!!

Last night I logged into the chatroom to kill some time. Then this guy private messaged me and gave me his new handphone number. That's fine. Then suddenly he typed, "Can you call me?" I was like..."huh?" I asked him, "For what?" He replied, "Nothing, I just want to hear your voice, that's all." I was like, "Duh~~~~" =.=

Funny though, that this is the same guy that I had been 'rejecting' (in a way) for so long. When I told him before that I am already seeing someone else, the next day after he would then again, send me a private message giving all those sloppy, lame, words that makes my skin crawl...or in chinese/cantonese we call it "yuk ma" words...sheesh.

Now, I don't go for those same old lines. For me, it's sickening and it's very super duper lame.

I don't appreciate it when some unknown stranger sent me a message after viewing my profile for just merely 5 minutes then starts sending me those messages such as "Hi Dear, I saw your profile and I can't breathe. You are so beautiful, you are pretty..bla..bla..bla...I can't stop thinking about you. Can I contact you? Can you be my girl?" that kind of thing.

The thing is, what's wrong with men these days? They always after a lady with such bad opening line. A BIG TURN OFF, enough to make us dash for a 100m race! Now, back to the guy who asked me to call him...I won't call him, I would never call him. Want to know why? He can't even afford to call me and expecting me to call him...what's next? I'm paying for his meal when I happened to see him?

I might sound a little vain here...but here's the logic. Ladies nowadays are smart. They are independent. We don't ask the guys to bring us to expensive restaurants or shopping. We had a job, we spent on our own. So why we had to spent it on YOU? Yes, from all these so called small things we saw, even you expecting us to pay our bills or top up our credits for spending it to call you, how can we expect you will be paying for your own meals when you see us?

Scene 1

I had been waiting for the guy to appear for more than 1 hour. That time handphone is still consider a luxury and I was still a student on practical so can't afford one. He arrived almost 2 hours late, without apologizing and then blurted out, "I am so hungry. Come let's go eat. You belanja ok!" =/ I thought was just kidding. Well, true enough, at the KFC ounter there he turned to me and said, "You pay." Okay, consider it as my bad luck. It's just a snack plate, anyway (NOT!).

Thought he would leave afterwards but he insisted on followed me to shop for a dress to my cousin's wedding. I found myself a nice black velvet halter neck dress and was testing it looking at myself at the mirror outside the fitting room. He suddenly appear at my back and said out loud, "Wow, I love to see your neck. It makes me feel like I wanted to bite it!" I immediately get changed, dashed out from the boutique, went out from the mall and looking for a cab. That's the first and the last he went out with me. He did tried to call few times asking me out, didn't bother to ask for apologies and was puzzled why I refuse to talk to him on the phone or see him.

Scene 2

I was a bridesmaid at my friend's wedding. As everyone is enjoying the food, dancing and drinking merrily to celebrate the happy occasion from day until night time, I sat at the corner quietly enjoying some wedding cake for the 5th time out of exhaustion, boredom and cold (she lives at the Bundu Tuhan, near the Kinabalu National Park). This guy came and the first question he asked is "Where is your boyfriend?" I looked up at this stranger and was like "Huh?" and I replied "I'm came alone." That guy insist on trying to get some chance to have a physical contact, like pretending to 'accidentaly' touch my hand as such. The next day, saw him puking for he has been drinking non stop since the wedding day.

No, I didn't say Malaysian guys are bad. But the thing is, there are so many that represents the gender from the example above. I met nice ones as well, those who knew how to said the right words to a lady, those who respect ladies and those who knew the equality of gender between ladies. The sad thing is, there are way too many guys nowadays who financially dependent on ladies, there are guys who treat ladies like a piece of trash. There are men who thought that a lady must be put in her position that she didn't deserve to be treated as equal.

Whenever a lady who is still single even as her age gets older, lots of people said "You are being too choosy." Yet, in this world nowadays, who wouldn't want to be choosy? We got a reason to be one!

Oklah, before I get some guys dashed at me and said that I am being bias to my own gender (something I haven't done for a long time), I better stop here. Remember guys...

1 - We don't simply call a guy for no reason. Asking us to call you and pestering us to do it when we are not interested a bit makes us despise at you more.
2 - You can pay for your own meal for all that we care. Just as long as you didn't bug us.
3 - Never, ever had a physical contact with us without consent. We hate it.
4 - We love men with a good sense of humor, but not trying to be so called Saiful Apek, Adam Sandler or Jim Carrey wannabe's.
5 - Don't call us babe/dear/sayang/lover/my love when you just barely knew us. It makes us sick.
6- Ladies...you add the list... =p

Have a nice day!