Love Is Not Selfish.

There is this one guy who loves a girl. A couple years ago, the girl had broken off their relationship due to long distance. They still remain friends and he often contacted her, even though he knew that she's already moved on and meeting someone else, he always tell her that he still loves her. exactly 1 year ago, she's married.


Today, the girl called me and asked me for advice. The first guy has been constantly messaging her everyday since the past month, begging her to return back to him because he can't accept the fact that she is already married. Even his mother and sister has been keep on contacting this girl, begging her to accept that guy back into her life, even came up with the story that he is already attempting suicide (still threatening to do so) and that the mom will eventually died of sadness if he really did so.


The guy too, keep on telling her that he only wanted to live with her for the rest of his life and kept on urging her to divorce her husband.


Wow...I heard that love is patient, love is kind, love endures all things...but I never heard that there is someone as selfish as these people. Call me cruel but if it happens to me, I would say "If you want to kill yourself, then go ahead. Because you are such a selfish person that only thinks of yourself without thinking the impact it would cause to others. Just because you are sad, then you want the rest of the world grieve with you." So, it's the girl's fault then if he really kills himself and then, God forbid, his mom died afterwards?


After all, threatening with suicide is not working..at least for me. Such cheap way to ask for sympathy by keep on saying "I will kill myself if you don't return back to me." makes me more sick of wanted to lay eyes on such pathetic, weak, coward people who only wants to gain attention and to get pity from others to get what they wanted. After all, I was told that fella has been threatening to suicide, and attempting to suicide IN FRONT of the presence of his family. Which means, he knew that someone would SAVE HIM IN TIME even before he managed to hurt himself in any other way. If he really serious to do so, he might as well go quietly and go somewhere where no one would find him until his dead body hanging from on a tree and rot.


It happens to my friend. That was exactly what I told her to do. Sounds cruel, but hey, it is better than keep on letting that guy to disturb her peaceful life. If he really loves her, he should have let her go, and let her live happily; not by persuading her to get a divorce so that he would be happy.


Obviously, this guy doesn't know what the word 'LOVE' really means.