Why It Has To Be A Big Deal?

I guess the impact was on me especially the day that my brother's wedding approaching near. Glad that some stuff was finally on track and get down to the finish line but there are more other stuffs that I'm getting it done. Off course, when a wedding is approaching near, there will be lots of people around that notice about the 'single, unmarried' you and started questioning:

"So, when are you getting married?"
"Don't you think you are too old now?"
"Don't you feel lonely?"
"Don't you want to get married? Have kids?"
"Don't you realized that your biological clock is ticking?"
"Didn't you ask your boyfriend where your relationship goes?"
"Didn't your boyfriend wants to marry you?"

And so many more in the line, but above is the most common ones.

First of all, I am happy the way I am. I am currently in a relationship, but hello...does everything must ended in marriage in a haste? If it does I would be divorced many times than Elizabeth Taylor did!


Second, off course I want to get married. But if I get married just for the sake of 'getting married' and to make other people happy to see me 'married'...and lastly ended up in an unhappy marriage, making more lives miserable then I rather stay single.


Third, Children is a gift of God. I got a friend who marries at 44 but she still got a healthy baby a year afterwards with no complications whatsoever. God provides. Why doubt on His works?



Fourth, No, I don't feel old. I am surrounded by wonderful friends and family members around me, the house is always in a big hu-ha among us...I got cousins who are still single, those who are older than I am but they live their life as happy as it is, to the fullest...so being lonely is only 'lonely' when you bring the loneliness in your life. You think too much.

Fifth, yes, me and my boyfriend did think about our future. He has his target in his life and I got mine. When the time is right, the day will come. In the mean time, we just go with the flow. So what is wrong with it? Other people do it, why we can't?

Why it has to be a big deal whether I am still single or not? That my sibling is getting married one by one but not me? If you want to eat come to my house, I can always cook for you the same as they serve on the wedding banquet...don't doubt on my cooking skills wor, I might seldom in the kitchen but I still call myself a good cook! (Aiseh...hahahahahahha)

So now, to everyone out there....please do not nudge on me on every wedding occasion and say "When is your turn?" I might return that favor to you on a funeral, nudge you and say the way you told me, "When is your turn?" at that time, don't say I didn't warn you to stop from the beginning....hehehehhee....