Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

I was surprised when I heard one of my friends just broke up with his girlfriend. It is hard when someone that we gave our heart to, the one we hope to share our life - suddenly walked out from our life and move on - without us.

It reminded me the time when I broke up with my ex few years back. Spent a whole 5 years together then I found out that he was seeing someone else for almost a year. To add salt into the injury, he got the lady pregnant and they got married. Feeling cheated, betrayed and somewhat fooled, disgusted, all emotions mixed into one. Sounds familiar to some?

Truth is, there is no such thing as easy breakup. Forgive me if I am wrong, but is it easy to walk away and move on, knowing that someone that we used to care and love is no longer there? More painful to know when they already had someone else to replace our place, which in fact, we are already replaced and only waiting for the time to tell the whole world that our place in their hearts were taken the moment we leave.

Looking from the other side, not all the people who initiated the break up is heartless. Sometimes, they find it hard to tell the truth that "There is just no more love anymore.", thus they afraid the truth of those words will hurt the person. When there is still a little compassion left, I think that it came for the sake of the happy memories that once shared. So they still had a heart after all.

However, I will be most grateful...if that someone could be more truthful at the first place. At least, you are doing us a great favor by telling the truth that we are not going anywhere in this relationship - true, we might feel hurt. We will be hurt! But it will lessen the pain rather than found out about it and knew that it has been going on long before we realized it.

Maybe some of you readers might think "AngelBear just didn't understand how it feels." I do. I gave a myself a good cry and grieved for a week when the breakup happened. I do feel angry at him. I feel angry at myself for being so stupid enough that I been fooled all along. Who doesn't?

The pain is still there when the tears had dried but I let myself heal over time. The key to the path of my healing process? Prayers (though I am not that religious), gaining back my self confidence with lots of motivation, getting involved with new things (then paintball came into my life!), think positive and look for the silver lining behind the dark clouds that surrounded me.

I have lots of things to thank for, from him, really. I am thankful that at least he did share some happy memories with me, I am thankful that I learn to be more stronger than I was. I am thankful so much that he shows me that I can do better than before. I am thankful for my life today because of him - leaving me. No joking! =p

So my friend...I hope that you will recover soon. Remember: you always have friends and family that loves and cares about you. *hugs*

Never be sad for what is over,
just be glad that it was once yours.
- Unknown